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Agitators, skinny jeans, and tribes
April 26th, 2010

Posted by Chris

I’m thinking quite a bit about what it means to lead a tribe (group of folks sharing something in common) and develop systems for that tribe as we prepare to re-launch the church. Here’s a progression I’m noticing:

1.  Learn the tribe

This is where you buy the product, check out the church, or learn the lingo. You observe accepted behaviors and beliefs of the tribe whether this is conscious or unconscious to you.

2.  Conform to the tribe

You attempt to fit in. You apply what you’ve learned. You conform to the beliefs. You buy the skinny jeans to be different and yet everyone else is wearing them.

3.  Break away from the tribe or Agitate the tribe forward

This post is for leaders. Most will stop at number 2. That’s fine. Some however begin to see ways and paths of improvement. Places for innovation flash like a neon sign. You have a choice. Do you break away because those changes are too sacred to the tribe or because the tribal leader has stated your innovation is the undermining of a non-negotiable? OR if it’s a healthy environment and your innovation doesn’t undermine a key value are you willing to use your frustration to agitate tribal leadership forward?

As we prepare to relaunch Discovery and I’m walking this new path helping leaders with identity formation here are some takeaways for me:

  • Are our tribal distinctives clear?
  • Is there a path for tribal transformation and not just information?
  • Are our tribal non-negotiables clear?
  • Is there an environment for the agitators to help the tribe move forward?

Thoughts?

(This post influenced by Tribes -my amazon link to this book)

2 kinds of self-discipline
April 2nd, 2010

Posted by Chris

Have you ever been around someone who’s commitment to discipline shamed those around them? I have been that person. I have exhibited strong external discipline while suffocating internally. We have different personalities and react differently to people’s choices. We have different opinions as to what choices we should make. We have different backgrounds that factor into our choices. (Search the word attachment on this blog for more info.) But we must grow in our journey of healing, empowered choices, and self-discipline. Let’s just be grace-filled in our discipline.

Grace filled self-discipline:

  • Makes choices because they are loved by God.
  • Forgive themselves quickly when they mess up. They even find joy in their weakness.
  • Is comfortable with moments of carefree play.
  • Admits needs, vulnerabilities, and insecurities.
  • Knows they cannot “do enough” to get close to God and live wisely. The Holy Spirit must close the gap between our lack and our resources.

Insecure self-discipline:

  • Makes good choices to earn God’s love.
  • Punishes themselves when they mess up because they think they deserve it.
  • Wants to be seen by others as a hard, serious worker having it all together.
  • Hides needs, vulnerabilities, and insecurities making other insecure people feel inferior.
  • Actually believes their choices are the sole factor for good results.

May your Easter lead you to grace-filled discipline. Today, I’m moving further away from insecure self-discipline but I have a long way to go. I can only describe this because I know it deeply. Any you would add?

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Welcome to my little part of the webbed world. I’m the senior pastor of Discovery Church (www.dcclive.com) and I have a spiritual counseling/direction and coaching ministry. At night I try to be a couch potato and entrepreneur but my young children won’t let it happen. From leadership rants to the beauty of my wife and 3 little girls expect this blog to be as paradoxical as my personality. Oh yeah, I’m speaking for myself on this blog and no one else.


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